4 Ways Teens Can Overcome Anxiety

If there is one thing in life that everyone can understand, it’s the feeling of being stressed out. Stress is a reaction we all experience at one time or another from feeling under pressure, which comes from a situation. Usually once the thing, commonly referred to as a stressor, is gone our stress has passed and we feel relieved.

People experiencing stress on a consistent basis can develop a bunch of problems that affect their physical and emotional health. If you Google search stress reduction you will no doubt find solutions such as using coping skills, eating healthy foods, and getting plenty of rest and exercise. While stress can come and go in our lives and be managed, it is very different from anxiety. Anxiety is a bit more complicated due to it being an emotion that we feel when we can’t predict the outcome of a situation and we are afraid of what we think may happen, or the unknown. Anxiety is different from stress, in that stress goes away when a situation causing pressure passes, but anxiety tends to stick around even in the absence of a stressful situation. What’s more confusing is that we can feel anxious and not even know what it is that we are feeling anxious about!

Anxiety can present itself in the life of teens in so many different ways. Teens I’ve worked with have described a sudden feeling of fear, as though something bad was going to happen, but not knowing what. Some teens feel anxiety at home when it comes to having to communicate with parents about stress at school such grades and conflicts with their peers. Research is currently showing that about 8% of teens ages 13 through 18 years have an anxiety disorder.

Anxiety is an emotion can result in teens being vulnerable and believing negatively about themselves. Take a minute and imagine constantly thinking that people don’t like you, that you will bomb on your next exam, and that nothing will ever get better. Whoa, can you imagine what it’s like to be constantly worrying? It’s all too common for teens to have anxious thoughts, but what is more alarming is that data shows that only about 18% of teens receive any type of counseling or mental health services to address it. Anxiety is the unspoken problem that teens can drown out by self-medicating with marijuana or by self-harming. Self-medicating is often the only things teens use because they don’t know any other way to deal with their anxiety.

There are 4 main areas that parents can talk with their teens about in helping to reduce the severity of anxiety.

1. Hit snooze, more sleep!

Teens who have anxiety may have difficulty sleeping, or may not be getting enough sleep, which is contributing to the problem. I’ve seen a lot of teens (and adults) gulping down energy drinks to get them through the day. Current studies in sleep by the National Sleep foundation show that teens need up to 10 hours of sleep a night. The same percentage of teens that have anxiety also report now getting enough sleep, what a coincidence. What can help a teen get a good night’s sleep is them creating a routine where they can unwind, relax, and get to sleep at a time that will give them 8-10hrs before they have to get up for school. Encourage your teen to do themselves a favor they will thank themselves for when they have to wake up in the morning.

2. You are what you eat

If you notice that majority of what your teen is snacking on is potato chips, soda, or anything that is in a wrapper, you may want to switch them out for produce such as fruits and veggie snacks. Poor eating habits like eating junk food or skipping meals can have a big effect on a developing teen body and how their mind and body deal with stress and anxiety.

3. Get up and get moving

Teens need at least 60 minutes of physical activity a day, which they may not be getting at school. Teens don’t have to be involved in after school sports to get exercise, and whether it’s skateboarding, riding a bike, or walking the dog, what counts is that their bodies are generating endorphins. Endorphins are the bodies natural stress relievers that can also boost our moods.

4. Don’t hold it in, talk it out.

A lot of teens aren’t talking about their anxiety because they believe no one will understand them, or don’t know how to help. Teen’s may be reluctant to talk to their parents if there is conflict that is contributing to their stress or anxiety. Talking to a therapist to explore what the anxiety is about can uncover the thoughts, beliefs, and cause of the anxiety. Understanding their anxiety is the first step in a teen overcoming it. A therapist can help teens learn specific coping skills to calm down when they’re feeling stressed and anxious, and new ways of looking at their emotions.

Along with the four main areas parents can help their teens by encouraging healthy habits and creating routines at home to reduce stress. Above all else, invite a discussion about what they find is stressing them out, and if they are experiencing frequent worrying. Let you teen know that stress and anxiety is something that’s normal, and that it’s manageable.

Secrets of Raising Better Kids and Teens in Today’s World

Raising great kids is not talk but work. Parenting or guarding young ones is one of the most difficult tasks on earth and truly it is one work we get little or no training but if it is done rightly, the rewards are fulfilling and long lasting.

To raise better kids and teens, you must be intentional about it. Nothing works until your mind is in it. See raising kids and teens as a work that must be done properly if not the family and entire community will suffer the ugly consequences.
Anything one learned during kidhood or teenage years sticks and can be difficult to unlearn. As one who is entrusted with the duty of raising these young ones, whether you are their biological parent or not, you should give this work your best. You should know that for anything to thrive, it requires time and care.

As a higherlife coach, major part of my work involves helping people make a positive difference with their life and living, and I thought it necessary to write on this topic because children are our arrows to the future. If you truly desire to raise better kids and teens in this internet and touch screen era, the following points below will help you:

# 1 Healthy Communication
Good communication does not just happen, you must make it work. You have not rightly communicated until the kids and teens understand you.

#2 Moral Re-Armaments
Good ethics and morals should be encouraged at the early stage of child development because characters formed at this time of life are carried on to adulthood. As a parent or guardian, you must be God fearing and purposeful if not you won’t be able to help children understand the true meaning of life, what purpose is and what brings about authentic happiness, joy and fulfillment. Help kids and teens build a good spiritual life and you will be amazed that other aspect of their lives will be healthy and progressive. You must properly build a moral and ethical environment.

#3 Netiquette
Educate young ones on the healthy use of social media and other internet platforms. This will help them to behave rightly whether someone is watching them or not as they use the internet. You must make them understand that what they watch read and hear subtly influence their lives therefore, they should not watch, listen to or read immoral and evil stuffs that will corrupt their minds. Teach them healthy rules on how to use and communicate on the internet and social media.

#4 Be a living epistle:
Young people learn fast by imitating adults. As an adult, you must be a person of good character and conduct. Be an exemplary; the younger ones are watching, observing and copying what you do. Show gratitude and treat people with respect and these younger ones will learn to do so.

Train up younger ones in rightful ways and as they grow up, this moral values and good things you have taught them will help them surmount the pressures of life. They will grow up to become good citizens and noble ambassadors of our nation. If we all can give raising of better kids and teens our best, they will grow up to make us proud. Children are treasures and we must value and guard them with diligence.

Is Hot Yoga Good For Kids and Teens?

Is heated yoga cool for kids?

Seems that this hot secret is finally out: kids can benefit from hot yoga as much as adults. And even more so.

As such, many hot yoga studios are seeing an uptick in the attendance of youngsters, particularly tweens.

On the physical level, yoga has been shown to enhance physical flexibility, coordination and strength, all of which makes children less injury-prone on the playing field. And kids of all ages play a lot of sports in school and after school, including college level sports.

On an emotional level, children who practice yoga often show increased self-esteem. They are better able to focus on tasks and manage stress in school including tests, homework, and a social life which can become quite stressful as they enter the tween years.

My own two children started yoga with me when they were 14 and 17 (my daughter actually attended yoga with me when she was 5 years old; but she started practicing on her own at 14). Both are athletes – my daughter Carly plays league softball and football and is an avid cross-country biker and hiker. My son Zach is a black belt in karate and recently started Capoeira.

My kids credit hot yoga with years of injury-free athletics.

I credit it with maintaining my sanity through their teenage years.

What is hot yoga?

Traditional Hot 26 yoga is done in 105 degrees with 40% humidity, a 26 pose sequence for 90 minutes.

The teacher is charged with keeping everyone both safe and challenged to their max, so rest assured: your kids will be well cared for in the heat.

Benefits for Young Athletes

Kids can play rough.

True hot yoga enhances flexibility, coordination and strength, all of which makes children less injury-prone on the playing field. That’s one reason more and more high school coaches – football, baseball, soccer and hockey – are recommending hot yoga to their young athletes.

In addition, children who practice often report increased self-esteem and are better able to handle stress including tests, homework, and a busy after school schedule.

And what teenager wouldn’t benefit from a large dose of self-direction?

Yoga-kids also tend to better manage emotional challenges with patience, tolerance, and, let’s say the L word: love.

At what age can children do hot yoga?

In my opinion as a yoga teacher, age 10 is about the earliest a young student can fully manage the stamina and balance, as well as heat acclimatization needed to full enjoy the 90 minute hot class.

Make sure they drink plenty of water – half their body weight in ounces – so they go into class already well-hydrated.

Should parents bring their children to yoga? A heated debate…

I love seeing parents and their children doing hot yoga together and bonding over a sweaty class.

Even when tweens or teens have little in common with their parents, they can still enjoy this challenge together. Being warriors together in yoga class can offer a respite from battling each another.

One caution for the parent: stop being a parent while you’re in class with your kids! Don’t correct them, scold them, don’t even place your mat where you can see them – otherwise the temptation to parent them will be too great.

Let the yoga teacher handle everything in the class; enjoy your practice and let your kid enjoy hers.

Yoga teaches balance, body control, it even teaches focus and concentration. These yoga-inspired traits are something every youngster can carry well into adulthood and turn into lifelong habits for happiness and success.

And a reminder of the value of patience, self love and a time when your body was a lot more flexible, are great for the child in all of us adults, too.

How to Nurture a Healthy Identity in Your Kids and Teens

Developing an identity is one of the most important things any person will do in life. Our identity or self-concept answers the question of ‘Who am I?”. It determines how we see ourselves, how we behave, and how we feel about ourselves. If we see ourselves in a negative light or feel badly about the person we are, it affects our ability to have a good relationship with others and our levels of success across various domains.

Developing an identity happens gradually throughout the childhood years. In early childhood, kids describe themselves in concrete ways (e.g., I have brown hair, I am Jimmy’s friend) and in adolescence their description becomes more abstract (e.g., using personality traits, morality, and ideals to describe who they are).

The role of parents is to excite teens into thinking about themselves in a more mature (and of course positive) way while providing a loving and supportive environment. Encouraging and compassionate surroundings allow teens to feel safe and proud of their attempts at an adult-like life. This support has a positive influence on their identity.

Here are some ideas on how to guide your child to develop a healthy identity:

1. Self-awareness: Guide your teen to think about who they are, what they are good at, what they like or don’t like, preferences, skills, and talents. Talking about bodily changes, what to emotions to expect, and the normalcy of it all is also important. Share stories from your childhood with your teen to demonstrate s/he isn’t the only one experiencing this ‘awkward’ stage.

2. Self-acceptance: With all the changes occurring in your teen’s life, mental and physical health depends on how much your teen is able to accept him or herself (e.g., new physical appearance and new way of thinking). Teaching self-acceptance is best done through modeling. Teens tend to criticize themselves similar to the way the same-gender parent does, likewise, they tend to praise themselves similar to the same-gender parent.

3. Family values: Every family has values. It becomes a problem however, if they are never discussed. The earlier a family discusses values (and adheres to them!!) the better. Sometimes there is a mistaken impression that teens will figure it out on their own. After all, it’s part of building independence and too much guidance might spoil them. Teens are still very much children and vulnerable children at that. It is at this age that they need parents to guide them on what is important in life. Clearly laid out values (not in lecture format though) outlines what type of behaviour is acceptable.

4. Goals: Goals help strengthen identity by adding a feeling of purpose in life. Completed goals give teens direction and a feeling of accomplishment. All 3 of these components are necessary for good self-esteem. Goals don’t have to be big to count; even simple objectives such as keeping room clean from week to week arouse feelings of pride. Encourage your teen to have goals, point out goals that have not been recognized as ‘goals,’ and remember to celebrate all successes. If there are any outstanding goals, teach your teen to view them as lessons learned before they write them off as a failures.

5. Future occupation: In addition to the other challenges teens face, thinking about future career choices adds stress and anxiety. 100 years ago, children’s future would be decided early. Sons would inherit the father’s farm or business and daughters would marry and raise kids. Today’s career choices are much more extensive and many times children are left on their own to figure it out…assuming that as they reach a certain age they will just know! Guidance, inspiration, and experimentation are important throughout the teen years as they help identify and pinpoint skills, strengths, and likes. Research, discuss, and experiment with (hands-on experience) a wide range of occupations.

Cell Phones For Kids and Teens

Cell phones have made an important mark on the world technology scene as seen in the advancements in mobile technology. The cell phone has become more than a basic communication device but rather a platform for many other technology applications. Now you can browse the internet, find your location; send messages and many other things on your cell phone today. Well, what should we look at when we begin to think of cell phones for kids and teens? As a parent, you will find it handy to give your child a phone as this can help you to keep track of his or her whereabouts and at the same time let them inform you when they are in trouble. With a cell, your worries can ease as your child will be available to you to communicate with in seconds.

Mobile phones have sometimes been seen as dangerous technological items for kids and teens, as the phones can bring on or exacerbate some problems. The mobile phone now enables children to download, pictures, videos and games online, thus potentially posing a threat to their educational environment. The internet access available on cell phones is also subject to abuse and may lead to the viewing of pornographic material, engaging in cyber bullying and other anti-social behavior. As a parent, it’s up to you to make sure that your child knows the advantages and risks, as well as limitations, proper usage and other rules that you set as guidelines.

When it comes to the developing minds of the teens and kids, you need to be worried about technology affecting their mental and emotional development. To enhance safety in cell phones for kids, some manufacturers have designed simple mobile phones ideal for keeping in touch with your children. These phones are basic entry level mobile phones with limited features and buttons, thus the children will only be able to use the phone for reasons that you specify. The phones come with an integrated parental control feature whereby; you are able to limit the calls to be made per day and who is to be called. The phone can be set to only receive calls as well. These kinds are certainly handy for kids and parents alike and will mostly be used for safety purposes.

As a parent, you are willing to pay more for some peace of mind when it comes to the safety of your children. One thing that you want to know is whether your child is safe or not. You will want to be in a position whereby you can call your child and ask him or her where she is. The SOS or 911 button on some cell phones also gives the children a way to contact you in cases where they may be in trouble. With phones for kids and teens, you will be rest assured that your child does not get over their heads in the technology trend and develop bad phone habits.

5 Benefits For Young Children And Teens Participating In Dance Exam Sessions Within Dance Schools

Dancing is something rather nostalgic to those of us who are now fully grown. Often adults will say, “gee I wish my mother had pushed me to stay in dance classes such as ballet and tap when I was little and not listened to me when I said I wanted to stop!” We tend to look back at these early years and recall and realise that we were in a good lifestyle routine.

1) Dance exams help to instill dedication and commitment in children and teenagers.

The young dance students must have a good work ethic to keep up with the work which is being taught to them within the dance school by their teacher. The young dancers must also think for themselves and many dance teachers will ask them to practice their exercises at home in the hope that the dance student will grasp and show great signs of improvement week on week. It is after all a two-way street!

2) A sense of responsibility.

The words ‘exam’ or ‘show’ can be quite daunting, especially to our youngest of dance students. It is the responsibility of the dance teacher to make this event seem like it will be a fun presentation of their dance, for a very important visitor who will give them good marks, so that they will be able to learn new dance steps.

A sense of responsibility is also evoked within the young dance students, to be in control of something for themselves, something that they understand they can do and are very capable of, that the outcome is dependent on them.

3) Exams are a way of measuring personal development and personal progression.

Everything in life has a standard, a bar, a grading system. The majority of us excel in life when goals and challenges are put in front of us. Through dancing from an early age and participating in exam sessions we are able to learn this life process and find our coping skills. More importantly we develop ways of coping with many other challenges, that also come our way. As the dance lessons get increasingly more difficult in ability level, we as dancers are therefore improving and the dance certificate assures us of that.

4) Discipline, respect and gratitude is encouraged naturally.

It is true that there are certain manners and ways of approach that are required to dance lessons. The only thing practiced in a dance studio is dancing. That may sound like stating the obvious, however there is an understanding from all that to succeed there is a level of self-discipline required, to put yourself week in and week out through the paces to get the results that you wish. The level of respect between yourself and your teacher is a positive force that counts for many situations in the world today. The dance students learn to appreciate the hard work and the belief that another does and has for them.

5) Achieving something and feeling successful.

It is a great moment to receive dance examination results, to see the smile on the young dancers faces appear when they hear the news that they and their friends have all successfully passed. The joy often bounces right out of the dance studio and into the arms of their parents or guardians. Many families today take the opportunity to enjoy a special treat or a nice day out to celebrate the achievement. This is so impacting on children’s confidence, knowing that it is all because of something they did! When you think about it, all they did was something they already love to do, it’s that simple and the benefits certainly do set up great foundations for the future.

3 Tips on How Teens Can Cope With Challenges in Their Journey

Sitting together in circle within a dimly lit room I facilitated a mindfulness group for teens. A light scent of lavender lingers in the air providing aromatherapy to promote relaxation. There is a quiet calmness in the room as many teens in this group have shared they have never practiced mindfulness before. The group they are sitting in isn’t the typical group therapy as its purpose calls upon them to practice deep breathing while acknowledging any thoughts they have and letting them go in order to remain being centered and in the moment.

Being centered and calm in the middle of a stressful is a challenge that a lot of adolescents experience on a day to day basis. Many teens look for ways to cope with heavy feelings that come up for them in life. Unfortunately many teens find themselves using unhealthy habits that their peers use such as smoking, drinking, and in some instances self-harming by cutting or burning themselves to numb that overwhelming feeling that sits in the pit of their stomach. What I’ve heard often from teens is that they are unhappy with judging themselves, tired of being judged by others, and being told what to do by adults at school and their parents. What I hear from parents is that they just want their child to be healthy and do well in school so that they can be successful and happy, but that they can’t seem to reach them.

Practicing mindfulness is a useful coping skill for teens that can empower them to create a period calmness. Research on meditation is showing that it can be an effective is an effective way for young people to increase their focus, reduce stress, and alleviate symptoms of depression and anxiety. Mindfulness experts promote meditation as a way to help us people to be in touch with their own emotions through awareness, acceptance, and reflection of their experience. Many of the teens report of the group share that while thoughts kept popping into their heads, they were able to bring their attention back to their breathing and begin to feel calm, relaxed, or “chill-axed”. We then opened the group to them sharing their experience with trying to maintain a natural balance with all things that really matter to them. My approach in working with teens in therapy is acknowledging that life can feel pretty crappy at times, and it’s okay for them to feel upset by it. Acceptance of what they’re experiencing without judging it or rejecting it is the first step in coping with changes in life that can be unexpected or stressful. The focus then turns to learning how to use their own natural abilities to work through difficult times and staying in the moment rather than trying to escape it by drinking alcohol, smoking marijuana, or cutting themselves to relieve their pain. What many teens, and even young adults, find surprising is how practicing mindfulness, self-reflection, and practicing healthy lifestyle habits such as eating healthy and being active can make a big difference not only in how they manage hard times, but also in their overall outlook in life. Some things I encourage teens to do includes:

1. Take Time.

Setting aside time in the day where you can sit, reflect, and practice deep breathing. It’s okay to have thoughts running through your mind. The point of meditation is to acknowledge those thoughts and let them pass by and bring your focus back to the natural act of breathing. Practicing deep breathing can help slow us down when our mind begins to run away with racing thoughts that feel overwhelming.

2. Get Moving!

Being outside and active has an overall positive effect not only in our physical health, but the act of moving can also help us not sit and dwell on things that bother us.

3. Finding someone who can listen.

Everyone needs to be heard, and especially teens who value being able to open up to someone without being given advice or being told what the “should” do. When teens can’t share what they are feeling they hold onto it.

Adolescence is a time in life lives that is always remembered not only by what is experienced for the first time, but also in the emotional journey of finding their way in handling things, and having the support from people around them as they come into their own. Some of the greatest stories in literature are filled with young heroes on an adventure in which they learn about themselves, and while along their journey they find comfort in companions or mentor figures, what they often find is that what they needed to complete their quest or mission was something they had within all along. Mindfulness skills and inner reflection in therapy for teens is about nurturing that journey of inner discovery.

Problems Facing Teens Today

Teen problems are growing. If you think that being a teen today is the same as it was when you were in their shoes, you are probably mistaken. Now, listen to yourself say how strict and how hard life was when you where young. But, you need to realize that teens today face huge, life threatening decisions just about ever day. What they face has a lot to do with where they grow up. Yet do not be fooled into thinking that your child is safe.

In the normal course of your teen’s day, he or she may face any of these things; one or more of them.

Drugs. Think that drugs are simple like they used to be? They are not. Kids today are not just smoking the easy stuff. They are into crack or other strong and deadly drugs.

Sex. Not only are they exposed to it on the television, but they are encouraged by others. They may be engaging in sexual acts that you have never heard of. They may be doing it unprotected as well. At school, after school, on the car ride home – there are many opportunities you do not realize. Teens get pregnant and have babies.

Violence. Today’s teen problems often revolve around violence. They see friends with guns at school or after school. They witness huge fights. They hear threats. They see anger and deal with it daily.

Depression. With all that they see and do, teens face depression today at an alarming rate as compared to just a decade ago. Depression is not something that just goes away, but can cause them harm and threaten their lives.

Driving. Teens drive drunk. Teens drive under the influence of drugs. Teens get in cars that others are driving under the influence. Teens may also be responsible drivers, but share the road with those that are not.

Teen problems that are at a lower level can be just as deadly. They face lying, cheating, emotional trauma, learning disabilities and divorce. All of these things a child will face daily in some cases. In those cases, it is no wonder that they have low self esteems, high drop out rates and some of the students will break under the pressure. Teen problems should be addressed and noticed by their parents first.

Disney Casting Calls Give Kids And Teens Legit Shot At Stardom

When Disney vice president of casting and talent relations Judy Taylor was recently asked about where she finds talent for Disney Channel and Disney XD shows she stated, “we try here at Disney Channel, for many reasons, to look everywhere and have open calls all over the place to reach kids who may not have the chance to audition if they were only taking place in L.A. or New York.” The last several years Disney has held open casting calls in the cities of Richmond, Kansas City, Phoenix, Austin, San Antonio, and Wilmington. Thousands of hopefuls attended these calls with dreams of becoming the next Disney Channel star.

No matter what the expectations are of a child, teen, or parent who attends one of these open casting calls, the harsh reality is that the odds of being discovered are extremely small. But when someone is discovered, it can be a life-changing event that catapults a young person into worldwide fame. This is exactly what happened one year when Disney Channel held open casting calls in Texas and Florida. An amazing 11-year-old little girl showed up and impressed Judy Taylor and other Disney casting directors greatly. This child ended up becoming the second most popular Disney Channel star history, earning countless awards including six Kids’ Choice Awards, fifteen Teen Choice Awards, two Young Artist Awards, a People’s Choice Award, and an ALMA Award. So talent is very much discovered at these open calls, and they are no publicity stunt or gimmick, as many skeptical people falsely claim.

It is a fact that the vast majority of acting roles for Disney Channel and Disney XD are cast in Los Angeles. Judy Taylor hires freelance casting directors to do the day-to-day casting for individual series and movies. These casting directors use talent agents to bring in actors to come in and read for the specific roles. Sometimes the casting directors will call in someone who is not signed with a talent agent, however these are usually for smaller roles called Under 5’s – meaning having less than 5 lines of dialog. Extras in the United States are not represented by agents and are hired directly through extras casting companies.

Another exciting trend in the entertainment industry is online submissions for acting roles. With the advent of digital casting, talent can now submit headshots and resumes through email, or online talent databases. There are only a few legitimate online databases, so knowledge about these websites is crucial. During the summer of 2013, the casting directors for a new hugely anticipated Disney Channel show sent out a casting notice for series regulars. They specified that kids and teens outside of Los Angeles from all areas could submit an audition video. So it is official that Disney is now on board the digital online open casting call wagon. So the opportunities are real, and they are out there. Whether it be an in-person open casting call, or an online talent search – kids and teens now have more opportunities than ever to chase their dreams of working as an actor on Disney Channel and Disney XD.

Moving…Living on Vacation thanks to our teenagers!

A friend asked me after it was all said and done how did you know it would all work out? And I said “I didn’t”. I didn’t know all the pieces. I could only do what was mine to do at the time! We did what people dream of doing. It was not predictable. It was intentional and created.

On the ferry back from visiting a school both my teenagers said “that’s where we want to go to school!” I took a deep breath as my heart stopped! “How was all this going to happen?” In my mind we didn’t have the money to move, let alone pay for this education for 2 children! I changed my thoughts and let God… I made a deal with God. I would trust and only take the next step in front of me to take! My next step was to have the kids apply! Ok that I could do.

I started getting my house ready to sell. Had garage sales, donated items and boxed items. This was all doable in my days. It was like spring cleaning as my mind prepared to move. But it was still one step at a time. My heart stopped again when the kids got in to the school! Wow! This is really happening!
To complicate things, or in Gods perfect plan, I had been called to spend a month in Mexico and my daughter was going to the east coast to live with family for the summer. So my time frame short! Get the house ready before we left for Mexico. And my husband agreed to put the house on the market half way thru so it would be sold before we got home! And the inspection was complete by the time we landed! So we could make a mess as we packed up the next stages of the house.

The day after arriving home I drove up to look at houses on the island. We had 21 days to move! About 3 days to buy a house do the inspection and qualify for a mortgage! After looking at a home that had a renter in it we decided we could only look at empty homes. So our list changed. There was 1 house as I recall. Running thru this house,
(we had discarded before because it had horrible photos) before we jumped on the ferry home, I said “this house will do”.
My husband came out the next day because the sellers counter offered. And before we heard back again after accepting their counter off I was on the ferry to do an inspection of the house. We got word on the ferry 30 minutes before we did our inspection they had accepted.

It was a beautiful house. As I stood on the deck over looking the rock it was built on I said, “God you gave us a house in a rock! How biblical! Thank you!”

The next 15 days was filled with packing! Renting a truck and logistics. Funny in January, 7 months before, I had booked a trip to Canada on the day before our house in the city closed! I didn’t know how that would come into play but was called to keep the reservations. It became clear we were to pack up, drive away and store the truck for a week while we wait for our house to close on the islands. After a stressful morning of finishing all the last pieces and doing a walk thru we piled into our car and drove out of the country for a vacation! I couldn’t have planned it better!

The stress of the day, disappeared into inspiration, joy and abundance as we dropped our backpacks and fell into the couches in a 28 story condo with floor to ceiling windows over looking this amazing city!! We took a photo & shared it with my sister! So apropos she said “only the Rices go on an international vacation the day they move!”

City living and the kids childhood home of 15 years was behind us. Yes it was heavy, yes it was a stressful morning of weird emotions. We were present to them and still went on living. Canada, was so uplifting! I can’t even explain how it helped us all shift and helped us bond. Not to mention forgive each other from the stressful emotions and words said on moving day.

There was one snafu that evening. I got an email from our realtor that said it turns out the sellers are leaving the country tomorrow and won’t sign the papers for 2 weeks! Yikes! Fear set in, our truck, our life, being homeless, our dogs… we can’t hang out in Canada for two weeks! Only a week was planned and the kids started school in 2 weeks! I had to start shifting my thinking and know my truth. “It will work out perfectly. This is the right thing. I can expect all right things to work out.”. It’s a lot of work to change the reality that is infront of us. So I decided that only I would do this work so I didn’t share this new reality with my family. I did call the sellers agent and shared that we were in limbo and trusted the sellers with my family and we needed to close next week. He was, as I say, of old school thinking. He said it wasn’t possible, made me wrong and went in circles. We clearly weren’t seeing the same solution. So I politely ended the conversation… and started expecting God to heal this situation. God planned this whole move. This one thing couldn’t stop Him from making it all right. I went to sleep with peace in my heart, but tired from the mental work to change my thoughts and be at peace.God was going to show us the way.

I woke to a humbling email our Realator sent taking all the blame. It wasn’t his fault but he shouldered it with such grace. And right after that an email at 6 am was the sellers agent saying they postponed their trip and they would sign the papers on Monday! God is so amazing! Expect miracles. We ended up closing a day early!

Our house flows, its beautiful and it’s a gift on a rock! The house sold for more then we asked, the new schools tuition was paid & my kids are thriving! We love our life on the Rock! I’m so grateful for learning to only take the next step that’s mine to take! Visualizing your future is your first step…